{"id":1727,"date":"2015-10-07T21:14:11","date_gmt":"2015-10-07T21:14:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/?p=1727"},"modified":"2015-10-25T21:15:03","modified_gmt":"2015-10-25T21:15:03","slug":"why-it-pays-to-identify-and-approach-mentors-in-the-professional-cafeteria","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/why-it-pays-to-identify-and-approach-mentors-in-the-professional-cafeteria\/","title":{"rendered":"Why It Pays to Identify and Approach Mentors in the Professional &#8216;Cafeteria&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"articleHeader\">\n<h1 id=\"articleHeader__title\"><\/h1>\n<div id=\"articleHeader__separator\" class=\"separator\">\u00a0<a class=\"name\" href=\"http:\/\/www.entrepreneur.com\/author\/kelli-richards\" rel=\"author\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"hero lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/assets.entrepreneur.com\/content\/1x1\/124\/kelli-richards-v2.jpg\" alt=\"Kelli Richards\" data-original=\"https:\/\/assets.entrepreneur.com\/content\/1x1\/124\/kelli-richards-v2.jpg\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<div>KELLI RICHARDS<\/div>\n<div class=\"title\">CONTRIBUTOR<\/div>\n<div class=\"bio\">CEO at All Access Group<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><time>October 06, 2015<\/time><\/p>\n<p>At times, the workplace &#8220;cafeteria&#8221; resembles a middle-school lunchroom, with heightened stakes and competitors striving for power in lieu of popularity. Who sits where, and why?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Related:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.entrepreneur.com\/article\/244653\" target=\"_blank\">How to Get the Most Out of Having a Mentor<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s all rather intimidating. But engaging with the top of the food chain,\u00a0or \u201cmanaging up,\u201d in your own company or industry\u00a0is easier when someone trustworthy and approachable forges a trail first. For some professionals, this means engaging a mentor.<\/p>\n<p>Before pursuing that relationship, however, confirm that your potential mentor is the master of his or her trade, with a great reputation, a proven record of success and a powerful, credible brand.\u00a0The strongest mentors are fearless communicators\u00a0with access to the power base of an organization. They\u2019re visible to everyone, including the CEO. With connections to major influencers, a mentor can open doors to relationships and experiences that likely wouldn\u2019t be possible otherwise &#8212; or would take years to develop.<\/p>\n<p>Steve Jobs, a perfect example of this type of leader, was one of a handful of influential mentors for me. Although we didn\u2019t seek each other out and came together by chance, Jobs, as a well-known innovator, greatly assisted me throughout my career.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Making the first move<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>An experienced mentor can help navigate political land mines by serving as a role model and sounding board to support a mentee\u2019s success. Here are three tips for finding the right one:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Take advantage of an open door &#8212; or \u201copen seat\u201d &#8212; policy. <\/strong>When I worked at Apple, former CEO John\u00a0Sculley made himself available at an open table in our cafeteria. Most people gave him a wide berth out of fear, but I wasn\u2019t afraid to sit down and chat with him often. When Apple offered to cover the tuition for a two-and-a-half\u00a0year MBA program, I was one of about 100 people chosen because my manager pulled out all the stops on my behalf. Sculley\u00a0had the final say on who was chosen, which is one reason I sat down at his table &#8212; to thank him &#8212; and I still reach out to him today.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Be direct.<\/strong> Mentors sometimes <em>choose<\/em> prot\u00e9g\u00e9s, but usually\u00a0a person must be bold enough to approach an admired senior colleague and say, \u201cI need a mentor, and I\u2019d like it to be you.\u201d High-level professionals don\u2019t have time for beating around the bush. Be direct.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Seek out different &#8212; and seemingly contradictory &#8212; qualities in mentors. <\/strong>I\u2019ve been fortunate to build mentoring bonds with not only Steve Jobs, but also <a href=\"http:\/\/www.alanweiss.com\/about-alan-weiss\/\" target=\"_blank\">consultant and speaker Alan Weiss<\/a>\u00a0and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.hayhouse.com\/authorbio\/alan-cohen\" target=\"_blank\">writer Alan Cohen<\/a>. I consider Weiss and Cohen my bookend mentors; together, they deeply inform the way I work and live, and how I serve my clients.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Related:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.entrepreneur.com\/article\/250936\" target=\"_blank\">5 Secrets to Finding and Working With a Mentor<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Vetting a potential mentor involves listening to your gut reaction. After each interaction, note any\u00a0emerging patterns and how the exchange felt. If your experience gives you\u00a0a positive impression that this partnership could be mutually beneficial, chances are it will be a good fit.<\/p>\n<p>Both Alans provide distinct kinds of support and help me tap into contrasting parts of my personality. While Cohen has taught me how to get in touch with my softer side and shown me how to help others see the best in themselves by identifying their strengths, Weiss has\u00a0taught me how to reinforce my brand. With his guidance, I&#8217;ve sought to be\u00a0a thought leader in my field, by creating a body of intellectual property with a unique voice.<\/p>\n<p>These dynamic and complementary philosophies have\u00a0helped me build a solid foundation for my work and define my career trajectory. Developing a positive mentor relationship that pushes you to grow outside your comfort zone can propel you forward, too, ensuring that you thrive &#8212; not merely survive &#8212;\u00a0in the workplace cafeteria.<\/p>\n<p>The weeding-out process in the workplace <em>can<\/em> unfold like an episode of <em>Survivor<\/em>. Hang out with the wrong crowd or miss critical unspoken cues and you risk getting voted off the company island. But the right mentor can offer a \u201cpath to immunity\u201d and a faster track to success, to achieve the dreams that might otherwise dissipate amid self-doubt and cafeteria politics.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.entrepreneur.com\/article\/250371\" target=\"_blank\">What No One Tells You About Seeking A Mentor for Your Startup\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 KELLI RICHARDS CONTRIBUTOR CEO at All Access Group October 06, 2015 At times, the workplace &#8220;cafeteria&#8221; resembles a middle-school lunchroom, with heightened stakes and competitors striving for power in lieu of popularity. Who sits where, and why? Related:\u00a0How to Get the Most Out of Having a Mentor It&#8217;s all rather intimidating. But engaging with &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/why-it-pays-to-identify-and-approach-mentors-in-the-professional-cafeteria\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Why It Pays to Identify and Approach Mentors in the Professional &#8216;Cafeteria&#8217;<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1727","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-startups","pmpro-has-access"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4MGMb-rR","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1727","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1727"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1727\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1728,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1727\/revisions\/1728"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1727"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1727"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1727"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}