{"id":1297,"date":"2013-02-17T07:36:24","date_gmt":"2013-02-17T07:36:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/personalpolishing.wordpress.com\/?p=1297"},"modified":"2014-08-23T16:35:59","modified_gmt":"2014-08-23T16:35:59","slug":"try-this-to-keep-your-honey-faithful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/leadershipshape.com\/wardroom\/try-this-to-keep-your-honey-faithful\/","title":{"rendered":"Try This to Keep Your Honey Faithful"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Carole Jackson<\/strong>, Bottom Line Health<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Whether you\u00e2\u0080\u0099re a man or a woman, if you\u00e2\u0080\u0099re in a committed relationship, then there\u00e2\u0080\u0099s a good chance that you don\u00e2\u0080\u0099t want your partner to be lured away from you by another person.<\/p>\n

And as it turns out, \u00e2\u0080\u009cchemistry\u00e2\u0080\u009d is important to your relationship in more ways than one.<\/p>\n

In fact, the secret to fidelity involves making your partner\u00e2\u0080\u0099s body produce a \u00e2\u0080\u009clove\u00e2\u0080\u009d hormone called\u00c2\u00a0oxytocin<\/em>, a new German study suggests.<\/p>\n

You\u00e2\u0080\u0099ve probably heard of oxytocin\u00e2\u0080\u0094women produce it, for example, during certain activities such as childbirth and breast-feeding, and it makes them feel more bonded and attached to their children.<\/p>\n

But both sexes produce the hormone\u00e2\u0080\u0094and there are various ways to keep it flowing\u00e2\u0080\u00a6<\/p>\n

THE FIDELITY HORMONE<\/h4>\n

For the study, researchers gathered single heterosexual men and heterosexual men who were in committed relationships. Half of each group was given a nasal spray containing oxytocin and the other half was given a placebo nasal spray. About 45 minutes later, each of the men was asked to stand in front of an attractive female stranger.<\/p>\n

Researchers wanted to measure how much distance the men kept from the women, because prior studies have found that the less personal space you keep between yourself and a person of the opposite sex, the closer you feel to that person\u00e2\u0080\u0094a small gap signals intimacy and possibly even romantic interest.<\/p>\n

Results:<\/em>\u00c2\u00a0Men in relationships who were given the oxytocin stood\u00c2\u00a0farther<\/em>\u00c2\u00a0away from the women than the men in relationships who were given the placebo. Among the single men, the oxytocin had no effect. Then researchers performed a similar experiment, except instead of having each male participant stand in front of a\u00c2\u00a0woman<\/em>, each participant was told to stand in front of a\u00c2\u00a0man<\/em>. In that experiment, the oxytocin had no effect on anyone.<\/p>\n

In other words, the main finding was that oxytocin made men in committed relationships stand farther away from attractive women they didn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t know. And what can we take away from that? Well, according to the researchers, it implies that these men may have been signaling to the woman they were not romantically interested. Now, the researchers can\u00e2\u0080\u0099t say that oxytocin will necessarily make men 100% faithful to their partners, of course, but they argue that the less often committed men signal romantic interest through body language, the less likely they are to stray, said the study\u00e2\u0080\u0099s lead author, Dirk Scheele, MSc and doctoral candidate. Though this study involved only male participants, Scheele told me that the hormone works similarly in both genders, so oxytocin may help prevent women from cheating on their partners, too.<\/p>\n

GIVE YOUR PARTNER AN OXY BOOST<\/h4>\n

If you want to boost your partner\u00e2\u0080\u0099s oxytocin levels, you could go buy a bottle of oxytocin nasal spray online on a site such as Amazon.com. But increasing oxytocin\u00c2\u00a0exogenously<\/em>(ingesting more to increase your body\u00e2\u0080\u0099s supply), such as through a nasal spray, hasn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t been studied in the long term. We don\u00e2\u0080\u0099t know what dosage would be best\u00e2\u0080\u00a6or how long its effects may last\u00e2\u0080\u00a6or whether it will truly make a partner faithful\u00e2\u0080\u00a6.or what the long-term side effects may be\u00e2\u0080\u00a6and the quality and purity of products on the market is hard to determine.<\/p>\n

So in all honesty, would you really ask your partner to use such a spray?<\/p>\n

So, in the hope of preventing any adulterous impulses, there are other things that you and your partner can do that will boost your partner\u00e2\u0080\u0099s oxytocin levels\u00c2\u00a0endogenously<\/em>(naturally). And the best part is that they\u00e2\u0080\u0099re all pleasurable, and you may boost your own levels of oxytocin in the process. Here is what you can do with your partner\u00e2\u0080\u00a6<\/p>\n

Have sex often.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Oxytocin is released during orgasm, and orgasm boosts oxytocin more than anything else.<\/p>\n

Cuddle often.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Gentle, loving physical contact, such as cuddling, kissing, hugging or receiving a massage, can all increase oxytocin levels. Even just holding hands while you walk or putting your arm around the other person does it, too.<\/p>\n

Share your feelings.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Telling your partner that you love him or her will make your partner feel warm and fuzzy inside, which raises oxytocin levels. A small act of kindness, such as a sweet e-mail or text that says \u00e2\u0080\u009cthinking of you\u00e2\u0080\u009d also can do the trick.<\/p>\n

Watch an emotional movie together.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Renting a romantic film that\u00e2\u0080\u0099s emotionally compelling makes oxytocin surge because you empathize with the characters and feel the love that they feel. Research shows that this one simple action makes oxytocin spike 47%. (Do this while cuddling for a double whammy of oxytocin!)<\/p>\n

Go karaoke singing.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Believe it or not, belting out a duet with your partner can cause oxytocin levels to elevate\u00e2\u0080\u0094it\u00e2\u0080\u0099s because you\u00e2\u0080\u0099re aware of feeling joy simultaneously, which connects you more deeply.<\/p>\n

Dance as a pair.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Dancing with your partner in a way that you hold each other closely most of the time and move in step with each other is an oxytocin booster\u00e2\u0080\u0094in fact, research shows that one night of dancing makes the body produce 11% more oxytocin.<\/p>\n

Get scared together.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Doing something thrilling together, such as going white-water rafting or even riding a roller coaster, may help bond you even more and increase oxytocin because an experience that frightens you a little and triggers an adrenaline rush tends to make you cling to the person next to you a little more, both emotionally and physically. There\u00e2\u0080\u0099s a shared feeling of \u00e2\u0080\u009cWe\u00e2\u0080\u0099re in this together, and we\u00e2\u0080\u0099re going to make it through.\u00e2\u0080\u009d<\/p>\n

Source:<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0Dirk Scheele, MSc<\/a>, doctoral candidate, department of psychiatry, Neuromodulation of Emotion (NEMO) Research Group, University of Bonn, Germany. His study was published in\u00c2\u00a0The Journal of Neuroscience<\/em>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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